On November 1st, I searched without succes all over the house to find our poppies stash to put one on my jacket for our outdoor daily activities… even if hubby is buying some each and every year! I bought 5 for the whole family today. We will proudly wear this icon, which I have learned to truly appreciate and respect.
How has Remembrance Day become a special day for our family? Why it is a part of our annual celebrations just like Easter and Christmas?
Being a military family, we have indirectly experienced war, because Daddy hasn’t been deployed since our kids were born. In our past lovers life, I have had direct experience due to two deployments (Afghanistan and Haïti). We have been together since 2005, and whenever there is a fallen soldier, my heart twinges and sometimes cries. One more family torn appart, one more life sacrificed for our country.
During his career, Hubby experienced three missions. He went for the first time in Afghanistan before we met. He was employed as a member of the Army Reserve at that moment. I think it is important to consider reservists as a part of the army. As they can be deployed as any other Forces member depending on their actual contract.
The military life is lifestyle that only the ones who have lived it can understand. Being an army wife, I get a very broad overview of what it’s like. I do the best I can while Daddy’s away, but I don’t have a concrete clue of what it’s like to have to leave for two weeks, one month, two months, six months, one year, not to mention leaving my family and friends behind. I don’t know how you feel when you have to work every day of the week including the weekend in an completely different environment: to use tents and cots as accommodation; to live in community without any privacy at all; to feel constantly threatened while on basic or at-risk operation; to expect an explosion at any time when moving from one place to another in hostile land; to train and practice emergency protocol in case of explosions; to constantly feel insecurity and expect the worst during the most mundane routines of everyday life.
All this for our country.
We want to take the time to thank all those people that risk their life, and those that are still doing it, to let us live in a country where we can feel safe and free.
We want to remind ourselves that not so long ago, military families had hard times when they were sending their soldiers to the front in the unknown. For these families, a letter could take months to arrive, and even that was not certain. For these families, a call from a member of the Forces meant a terrible accident. « No news is good news » made sense to those waiting back home.
We want to remember conflicts and wars, and the sacrifice of women and men who served their country in the Armed Forces.
We want to remember that even if wars and communication means changed, soldiers are still have a job that requires a lot of altruism and resilience for them.
We are so grateful for how lucky we are to have Daddy here with us. Despite the danger and the events he faced during his deployments, he went through it without having physical or psychological injuries. I pray that this will last forever. No ticking bomb waiting ten or twenty years to explode our little world.
That explains why, since the last four years, we have gone to the Remembrance day parade as a family. Even if daddy’s away, we will be there this year as well. At 11h11, on November 11 2015, I will try to have the kids calm and quiet for a minute, the best way I can to pay tribute to all the fallen soldiers that gave their life so their children, their grandchildren and the children of their great-grand children and so on can enjoy a better future.
Two things that I will miss this year:
- Our Remembrance day Advent: Usually, we listen to Band of Brothers or Pacifica entirely to plunge us back in the conventionnal warfare context. As I was never interested in history at school, it is with great openness that I started viewing these series.
- The after parade: for the last three or four years, we met Daddy, after his celebration with the veterans, where he was or we threw a social event at our place to celebrate this day with collegues, brothers in arm or retired members of the Forces.
This day has become more than a « holiday », it is part of the values we want our kids to embrace: recognition and gratitude for those who helped us build our society we can enjoy today.
For all those canadians that fell, lest we forget…